A Midlife, Menopausal Mom Seeks Medicine in Magic Mushrooms
There was a moment at the airport as I waited for my flight to Jamaica that I wondered — have I lost my freaking mind?
I was riding solo this trip, reeling from an unholy midlife trinity: menopause, empty nest, and marital separation. As I looked around at my fellow travelers, feelings of isolation and unease grew. I was surrounded by joyful honey-mooners, intact vacationing families, and Christian missionaries in matching pink T-shirts. One of these things didn’t belong, and that thing felt like me.
I wasn’t embarking on a fun-filled…
When I look at the photo above, I don’t see a woman — I see a girl. She’s only 26, four years out of college, having worked only one real job in her life, and marrying the only boy she’s ever dated.
Even though it’s been ten years since her father died, she’s never really processed the trauma of his illness and death. College was her great escape from seriousness and loss, and she was determined not to look back.
So when a male friend from high school drove all night to show up outside her dorm window and declare…
I remember watching the series finale of Sex and the City in 2004 with a group of giddy women in our thirties (most of us married with children). We drank Cosmos and cheered when Carrie ended up with Mr. Big instead of the Russian.
To many, it was the perfect series finale. After years of struggle and strife as a single woman, Carrie’s wit, passion, and persistence finally paid off. She somehow managed to do the miraculous by convincing the unobtainable, emotionally absent, aloof businessman, Mr. Big, to choose her.
It was the proverbial fairy tale happy ending we all…
This year my son became a first-time father — to a puppy named Leo. And this week he told me he thought he might NOT have kids someday.
“But you’re so good with Leo,” I said. “You would make a wonderful father.”
My son replied, “Taking care of Leo is the reason I don’t think I want them.”
I responded: “You’re 22, it’s normal not to be ready for fatherhood. But don’t make any final decisions about your life. Things may change in 5, 10, 15, or 20 years.”
Hell, men can change their minds about fatherhood well into their…
Millions of people have now either had COVID or had COVID-like symptoms after receiving the vaccine. And almost everyone I talk to agrees that those symptoms were pure hell.
Imagine having those same symptoms — debilitating pain, extreme fatigue, and foggy brain — beyond two days, or two weeks, two months, or two years.
Those two days of hell you experienced after your vaccine (or two weeks while sick with COVID) were my life for SIX years while living with chronic Lyme disease.
I prayed every night for relief or ‘one good day.’ I never received it. …
“How strange that the nature of life is change, yet the nature of human beings is to resist change. And how ironic that the difficult times we fear might ruin us are the very ones that can break us open and help us blossom into who we are meant to be.”
From BROKEN OPEN: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow, by Elizabeth Lesser
Humans are strange. We are in constant conflict with our own nature.
We desire comfort, consistency, and connection with others. And yet, we also get bored easily and seek new and exciting experiences and relationships.
If St. Patrick’s Day were a house, it would be a sprawling, termite-infested structure, stuck in a tacky timewarp, in desperate need of a modern update.
It would be a fixer-upper.
I’m like Joanna Gaines — I can look past the gaudy ugliness of this house and see the strong bones. Underneath the tacky bright green and orange decor and shamrock face tattoos, I see a foundation worth saving and building upon.
I want to get in and strip it all down to the bones to reclaim the authentic, pristine pieces (the original moldings and shiplap). …
Warning: SPOILER ALERT
I am a very powerful witch, forged, not born. Like Wanda Maximoff, I have no coven, but I can do magic without any incantation.
At least that’s how it feels. You see, almost exactly a year ago, I cursed the world. And I cursed it hard.
I was tired of trying to explain to people how soul-sucking it felt to be trapped inside a sick body — living a diminished existence — unable to venture outside my home into the world.
And so, I cast an unintentional hex. I wanted the world to live inside my pain…
I do not behave myself in my illness.
I am the most impatient of patients.
I am prickly and on edge.
I cannot play the role of saint or martyr.
I tire of this endless rest.
This endless pain.
This endless lack of pleasure.
I long for life as it was before.
Before wasn’t perfect, BUT —
It was a life of relative ease.
A life of general health.
A life of endless possibility and potential!
And I took it all for granted.
I tire of even this –
My endless moaning and lamenting.
Woe is Me.
Last Valentine’s Day, my heart was broken into a million pieces by betrayal from the person I spent my entire life with. I was sad and depressed, sinking into a spiral of complicated grief.
I never felt more alone in my life.
This year, my heart physically aches because of an insidious virus called COVID-19 that broke into my home on New Year’s Day. The virus has latched onto my body, refusing to go away quietly.
I’m not a long-hauler yet, but I’m told it’s common to have symptoms linger for weeks and months.
Last Valentine’s Day, I was without…
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